Everyone needs Friends

I am bored.

This takes away my boredom.

Therefore I am doing this.
(Unrelated logical reasoning)

Friendship takes on many different forms, from helping your friend up when he falls or letting him copy you homework without telling your teacher (no no no don’t go running away at this point, even though you may be quite guilty of this *evil grin*). Although the latter doesn’t sound like helping because most teachers would say that you ‘aren’t helping your friend because he wouldn’t be able to copy from you in an exam etc etc (you know the drill)’, it is in fact helping your friend in a somewhat more *holds breath* unconventional way. But that’s something for another post, so I shall not talk too much about that here.

Anyway, friendship is normally a special bond shared by people who have similar interests (I’m not talking about your average fan club). A real friend wants to see you improve and grow in life (and occasionally [or sometimes even MORE than occasionally] the need to borrow your money [without returning *wink*]). Unlike a real friend, a ‘fake’ friend will only stay with you as long as you are of some use to him. Such as the portion in the previous sentence in brackets.

A real friend will stick with you no matter what happens. When you break a window in school because you kick a football way too hard, he won’t run away with the rest of your team when they see that bad-tempered teacher running towards you with a snarl on his face. He will stay with you and help you ‘deceive’ the teacher to make him think it was your teammates who broke the window so that you will get the least amount of scolding possible.

A real friend will not get jealous when you get good grades (Okay fine. But just a little.). Neither will he tease you when you fail that mathematics test (Alright, alright I admit it, I might say ‘Deserve it!’, but it’s only natural for that to happen…). A real friend will never put on an angry face and stomp off in a huff when he notices you have thirty more marks than him. Only a ‘fake’ friend would do that kind of thing. A little competition is good but you must remember not to take things overboard. If your friend wants to borrow your notes because he missed class, you should lend him your notes if he is your friend. Don’t try to sabotage him and tell him that there were no notes as this can only bring things downhill. Imagine if he really thought that there were no notes so he couldn’t study properly for the test. That would be really nasty of you. That friend trusted you so much as to believe that there were no notes; he thought of you as a great friend, only to have you stab him in the back. (Well well it seems we have another topic for another post :D)

Lastly, a real friend will help you up when you fall down. He won’t be so bad as to leave you on the floor with passers-by staring awkwardly at you (although that’s pretty funny). He will help you to your feet and support you to wherever your original destination was. A ‘fake’ friend, however, will most likely just ask you to get up by yourself and get to where you were headed by yourself even though you have a nasty gash and blood trickling down the side of your leg onto the pavement.

Then again, some people are really good at masking their true intentions. They can act all caring and friendly when you’re with them, but as soon as you are facing tough times (or get whatever it is they befriended you for in the first place), they will ditch you. Yes they will. That’s how cruel some people are. But that’s just how it is. It’s hard, it’s impossible, but you have to learn to be unlike Antonio, do not ‘hold the world but as the world’. Doing so will get you nowhere (the only thing it will get you is deceived, lied to, which isn’t the nicest feeling).

We should treasure our friends and stay loyal to them if they are indeed real friends. If they tell you secrets, you shouldn’t go around telling the whole world. Keep those secrets to yourself. And, stop listening to One Republic whose lead singer repeatedly emphasised about giving ‘all my secrets (his) away’. If a friend told you those secrets, he meant for you to keep them secret. Otherwise they wouldn’t be called ‘secrets’, would they. If the person trusts you enough to tell you that, you can be sure he thinks of you as a friend. Don’t ruin your friendship over secrets.

However, as with the main point of the paragraph somewhat above, you can never be too sure. The secrets you have been told might have been for the sole purpose of deceiving you into doing something. I don’t know what, but something bad. Probably something that will have dire consequences on yourself. Anyway, don’t take this too seriously; it’ll only give you a headache when you think about all the possible outcomes when you are told a secret.

Everyone needs friends. Even the richest of people would still be lonely even though they had all that money because they had no friends. All the money in the world couldn’t buy you a friend, someone whom you can talk to; someone who is willing to listen without expecting anything. We need someone to share our experiences and feelings with. No one can live with everything bottled up inside of them. You’d probably explode. Or have a mental breakdown. Or end up in a mental ward as a casualty of your own doing.

Holding long conversations with the dead.